Sometimes my anger feels so big, it's like there's a volcano inside me. The ground shakes, the lava bubbles up, and it feels like everything will spill out at once. Anger is a huge, powerful feeling-and yes, it can feel a little scary.
How I Cool Down My Volcano
I've learned that it's okay to feel angry, but I need safe ways to let that heat escape. Here are a few tricks I use when my volcano starts rumbling:
- I count my breaths. I close my eyes, breathe in slowly, and count ''one.'' Then I breathe out, whispering ''two.'' By the time I reach ten, the volcano inside me is already calmer.
- I move my body. Sometimes I go outside and run as fast as I can, or I jump in place. Every step feels like hot sparks leaving my feet until I feel lighter.
- I write it down. I grab a piece of paper and scribble, doodle, or write out every fiery thought. Once the words or shapes are on paper, the storm inside me isn't so heavy anymore.
Anger Doesn't Make Me Bad
Feeling angry-even really angry-doesn't mean something is wrong with me. It just means I have big feelings. What matters is how I choose to handle them. When I find safe, kind ways to cool down my volcano, I feel proud of myself. And little by little, I notice the clouds clear and I can smile again.
If you ever feel your own volcano starting to rumble, remember-you are not alone. Big feelings come and go, and you have the power to let them out in safe ways. Next time anger visits, try one of these ideas and see how it feels.